Betrayal

When people show you who they are believe them...

The late great and brilliant Maya Angelou understood human nature. And no I never read any of her books or essays. But, I remember her poem in honor of Bill Clinton’s inaugural. I thought it wonderful. On the Pulse of the Morning I carried a copy of it in my handbag for quite awhile. (And no I never voted for Clinton). Why I loved this poem? Because it was engulfed with Hope.

What has happened in our discourse that the word “hope” carries a kind of naivete? The specter of childishness. The ghost of unworldliness. The stench of cynicism.

What is it about the idea of hope that it is seen as foolishness?

So many simply think that the world is on the brink of something yet unnamed. So dire. So terrible, that it will end society as we know it. They laugh at the silliness of those who plan for tomorrow, who aren’t shattered by the pervasiveness of dread. What is it about the word “hope” that simply elicits profound credulity?

It is because we as a society feel betrayed. Betrayed by those who were meant to support us and find a way forward for the average person. Betrayed by those who we were told to rely upon for a better future. We feel betrayed by those who told us better days are ahead.

Betrayal is so very hard to deal with. It is a knife in the back by someone you trusted. It creates a barrier and teaches you not to trust. It teaches you to be wary. It teaches you that humanity is not always kind and sometimes cruel. That people you once trusted had no problem turning their backs on you when you needed them the most.

I wonder about the juxtaposition of hope and betrayal. How they are different sides of the same coin. How the betrayal actually destroys any hope you might have. But the overarching perspective I think about is, instead of letting betrayal destroy you, perhaps you need to review why you had hope, or connection, to a person who obviously didn’t deserve your respect, admiration, or attachment in the first place. What is it, about this person that attracted you and why did the betrayal occur.

There are people in this world who are narcissists, who center themselves in everything and if you do not conform to what they consider friendship they will move on or chastise you for what they deem your flagging loyalty. But that is also not your fault. Understanding this type of personality is the secret to becoming whole again and to making sure to weed out toxicity in your life.

There is also the betrayal of the person who moves on and doesn’t have the backbone to tell you that they no longer want to be friends. I suppose they call this ghosting. You can try to figure out what you did. But again, if they don’t have the maturity to discuss things with you, if they simply stop returning your calls, then the issue lies with them.

This is not to say that there aren’t 2 sides to every interaction or friendship. But what it does say is that you can review how you interacted, or what you wanted out of the interactions, and see if that is really what you were getting. Did you ignore warnings and behavior simply because you thought that was how friendships worked. Are you too invested in friendships and not invested enough in yourself?

Betrayal is something that hits deep inside your psyche. It is the acknowledgment that somehow somewhere you actually do not matter to the person, or persons. It is also perhaps putting false hope into the words or deeds of a stranger, a celebrity, or politician. It is thinking that this particular person speaks for you or to you. That the words they are saying aren’t just stories, but allegories for life.

We also sometimes want so badly to believe that a person we deeply admire is speaking to us and about us, that we make excuses for, and read into their words what we want to hear. We make excuses for their actions or inactions. We hope so badly that they are on our side of any issue, that when they voice, or don’t voice, an opinion we instantly take umbrage, forgetting that those who we hold upon a pedestal are human. Perhaps we have given them more power over our lives then they even thought to take.

Betrayal and hope are 2 sides of the same coin. First you need to figure out what it is you are after. You then need to figure out how you can help yourself. Never give up on the hope that the world will turn in your favor. Keep your strength. Know your worth. Do not let others take from you your humanity.

Know who to put your trust in in the first place. This is the lesson that age will teach us. Understanding our own worth, is a lifelong lesson. It is something you work on daily. It is figuring out exactly what you want in a relationship and making sure that you are actually achieving that goal.

DAY 467 OF THE HOSTAGES BEING HELD IN THE TERROR DUNGEONS OF GAZA 🎗️

Everyone forgets that when Biden announced this deal back in May, Obama was standing to the side. This is Obama's gaza deal. Which only means its a bad one for Israel. Trump's envoy, the Qatari aligned hotel developer, apparently threatened Bibi, with what we don't know. But Jerusalem let it be known that the envoy not only threatened Bibi but disrespected the Jewish sabbath refusing to wait until it was over to speak to Bibi. Something he would not have done to his Qatari overlords on their sabbath day or holy day. Apparently too, this envoy said the Qataris are doing God's work. Didn't know God was an Islamist slaver, homophobe and misogynist.

So much for Trump being the most proIsrael administration ever. Rubio notwithstanding. He works for Trump remember and will do as he is told. The nominees were still touting the proIsrael lie yesterday and the day before at their confirmation hearings. When you side with Obama you are many things, proIsrael is not one of them.

This is a terrible ceasefire deal. Let’s hope that some of the hostages are still alive. Let’s hope that some of them do get repatriated. I don’t believe for one minute that Hamas will return all the hostages. They will lose their leverage against Israel if they do that.

I don’t believe either that if phase 2 doesn't pan out, that the Trump administration will permit Israel to restart it’s military campaign. Trump made a big deal about ending wars. He has pledged that he is the great deal maker who will end all the hostilities. His ego is more important than the future assurance of freedom.

The war is effectively over and Israel, the Jewish People, and Western civilization have been betrayed by a spineless leadership which had promised to stand their ground against HAMAS-ISIS-Islamist evil but bent the knee instead. For what reasons? I leave that up to you to decide. I believe it’s for sheer self-interest.

Now that Trump has betrayed Israel (who thought when he threatened hell it was Israel he was threatening), let’s see how he will sell out the people of eastern europe to Putin. China is watching and Taiwan is next. This isn’t just a small island. This island is the center of the chip universe. Once captured by China, China will control the world. Ask yourself do you want to be ruled by the evil that is Communist China? We see how this is playing out, Trump has asked that the TikTok law not be enforced. Backing the ChiComs and their lackeys in the US already.

(P.S. if you can’t tell, I did not vote for Trump for a variety of reasons. Most of all, I knew betrayal was in his DNA if he felt it was advantageous to him.)

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