I remember having a discussion with my sister about how turning 40 was freeing because you no longer cared what other people thought. Truth of the matter is that I hadn’t cared what others thought for a very long time before that 40th trip around the sun. When you parent special needs children you really don’t care what someone in your little cozy corner of the world thinks about special education costs. (Let me tell you some of the arguments I have had with people in my little alpha personality enclave about funding special needs education were doozies. These so-called leftist democratic humanitarians are not so humanitarian when they have to pay for it. The word “hypocrite” comes to mind.) However, in all honesty, you are thankful that you live in a country where your child has a legal right to an education and a right to the support necessary to make sure that they have a future.
(Of course, not all school districts ever lived up to the law, even though it has been on the books for decades, and unfortunately parents do have to sue in order to engage their child’s civil rights. Which, you would have thought would have gotten better quite frankly in the era intersectional wokeness. But it did not. And it remains rather disheartening that as yet, those who are living with disabilities are still seen not as human beings, but as burdens on society.)
It’s funny when I look at it, that my sister and I came up with a name for how we felt. We dubbed it, “embracing your inner bitch.” Never thought standing up for yourself, demanding to be seen, and to be taken seriously was something akin to being a “bitch.” (Now this was pretty much 25 years ago- yes I am that old) But that is how society seems to see women who take no crap from anyone. I also think it’s quite the slur on female dogs.
The fiercest animal in the world is a mother protecting her young. So what is so wrong with a female dog protecting her young and why do we disparage this kind of motherhood? What is wrong with not letting someone harm your child and fighting to protect them as best as you can? But moreover, what is wrong with defending yourself?
Why is it still seen as disquieting for a woman to take no crap from anyone? Why is it still seen as awful a woman who won’t give any quarter? When a man does it, heck he is a hero. When a woman does it, then she is threatened with any and all forms of abuse most often as not, she is threatened with rape (mostly from online keyboard warriors, but quite often in real life, too). How awfully misogynistic wouldn’t you say?
(The line Margret Atwood wrote, “Men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them,” comes to mind when you hear these rape threats. By the way, if you didn’t know Atwood supports the virulent antisemitic BDS movement. She’s no prize either.)
I have to tell you I have segued from embracing my inner bitch to simply being “me.” I have actually stoped labeling standing up for myself as being “bitchy.” And no its not because of the young nurse who chastised me a few years ago for using the word disparagingly about myself. In truth, there are any number of women who are miserable horrible human beings who deserve society’s derision. There should be a general word for these women, you know the ones who still act like they are 12 year old middle school means girls yet they are nearing perimenopause, but a word doesn’t really come to mind. I always wonder though, why we associate that sort of behavior with female animals most of which are either protecting themselves or their young, or are sweet docile creatures, such as cows.
I know I have taken to using the word “cow” to denote some inherently duplicitous ridiculously stupid spineless individual who just happens to be female. Sometimes these individuals are malevolent, sometimes they are selfish, sometimes they are just craven like most politicians. But they are nothing like cows, who are sweet and kind and quite frankly loving creatures. I honestly think that the cow’s c’est la vie personality is where the term originated. Society decided that they were not very smart and intelligent creatures so they used the connotation to denigrate other females, mainly human females.
(By the way, no, I do not eat beef. I will serve it to my menfolk periodically, but I cannot tolerate it for myself. Quite surprising admission from the granddaughter of a kosher butcher. I recall a story my mother told me that when she was very young my grandfather worked in a slaughterhouse, and she said to him that she would like to come to work with him one day. His response was, “no you would not.” Years, later he admitted that the animals knew what was happening. And you heard their cries all day long.
Temple Grandin says about animal husbandry, that “nature is cruel but we don’t have to be.” Yes, we also need to live with the truth that in order to survive other creatures have to die. And no I don’t believe veganism is the way. An interesting little tidbit though, the nation with the largest per capita number of vegan restaurants to population is Israel. Guess when the majority of your population are either victims of genocide or descendants of victims of genocide you tend to eschew meat of any kind.)
The truth is that these past few years, since October 7, have brought about a new understanding of who I am in the world and how I view the realities we live in. Of course, the world has helped alot in that regard as well. The rise in global antisemitism has only proven the point of why there needs to be an Israel. That Jews world wide need a safe haven and need a place to call their own. If history itself has not provided enough fodder for how awful societies can be in taking care of their minorities especially Jews, then the past 2 1/2 years proves that antisemitism is so ingrained in the world that it is never going to be eradicated.
(Antisemites never seem to be able to put 2 and 2 together. Rid yourselves of antisemitism then there is no need for Israel. But on the other hand, I don’t think its that they just think Israel has no right to exist, I think these modern day Islamo-leftist nazis want to eradicate every Jew from the face of the Earth.)
Yes, I have written about giving no fucks anymore. I live as I want and will do as I please. I will not sacrifice my children’s future on the alter of some progressive crap in the hopes that some Jew-hating cunt is going to let me into their club (Mamdani can take his mayoral candidacy and shove it right up his gaslighting antisemitic antiamerican commie Hamas supporting racist ass.) Yes, there are Jews who voted for him. Of course there have always been Jews who betrayed their own people in the hopes it garners them some kind of reprieve from the antisemites in their wanna be social circle. Heck, there were even Jewish kapos in Auschwitz, doesn’t make the Nazis the good guys.
(For you GenZers, the “Nazis” were the racist cunts who invented the need for the creation of the word “genocide.” Not your neighbor who used the word “homeless” instead of “unhoused,” or Jews who are actually defending themselves from any of the genocidal antisemitic death cults called Hamas, Houthis, Hezbollah or the Iranian mullahs. Stay off of that fucking Chicom propaganda TikTok app and open a damn history book already.)
Listen, I have gotten to the point that not only do I not give anymore fucks, I actually embrace that old Askkenazi Jewish saying (in my ashkenormative kind of way)- “gay kaken afn yam..” literally translated it means “go shit in the sea.” But in usage it means “go fuck yourself.” Do I care what happens in NYC or the US or anywhere else in the world? Sure. I live here so what happens in this little enclave of the world directly effects my family.
However, in all honestly, I have decided not to care about any other cause than fighting antisemitism. Not because I am insular, but because I know that when they come for us they won’t care if we defended gay rights, abortion, or immigration. They will only see a “Jew.” So that is all I care about, and that is all I am going to care about. Until my children are safe, the rest of the world can “gay kaken afn yam.”
Just look at the massive descent of society over the last 2 years in the highly enlightened part of the world and how these areas have become bastions of Jew-hate. Do I feel bad for the average person that lives there? Sure I do, but they also let it happen. Why? Because they decided it had nothing to do with them. That it was only about other people. They turned away, and pretended its wasn’t happening. (Yes I know, not everyone did turn away. There were some that tried to fight back, and are continuing to fight back even now. But in truth how many are there? Fighting Jew-hatred is not the top of the majorities’ agenda in any country.)
This implosion didn’t happen overnight. This has been decades in the making. This has been a societal trajectory that no one did anything to stop. In fact, the trajectory was fully embraced, codified, and turned into the educational system where young people happily feel entitled to turn a music festival into a facsimile of a Nazi Nuremberg rally. (Forgetting that almost 400 young people were slaughtered at the Nova music festival by the same islamist mass murderers that celebrated the slaughter at the Arianna Grande concert a few years back. But these amoral brain dead GenZer twatheads don’t see the connection at all. Parents you have done a really lousy job.)
So if you want to call me a “bitch” or a “cow” or any other name go right ahead. (I will teach you a new definition of those words if you come for me and mine. I will use every legal means at my disposal while I still can.) I have seen the future of your civilization and your future sucks. I have seen the ignorant scumbags that try to tie themselves into gordian knots in order to justify their own existence, while allowing everything that past generations had died to protect go to the wayside in order to garner the votes of the most illiberal racist antisemitic constituencies among them.
No thank you. You can keep the miserable societies you are creating.
You’ve made this bed now you are gonna lie in it.
Remember, the Jewish People have outlived every great empire or civilization known to human history. We will outlive this upheaval, too. We know who we are (well most of us really do, its why over 90% of Jews are zionists). It’s why we survive. The question you need to ask yourself is who are you and what do you want your legacy to be? What kind of world are you going to hand to your children? Do you want them to be enslaved to hatred, or do you want them to understand true freedom?
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Please write a book, a long one. Your writing is brilliant. In a quick (Substack said 9 minute read, but I am sure I read it in 5) read you manage to take your reader on a journey from feeling giggly to thoughtful, to angry, and then with the stroke of your pen (keyboard) we are done, wanting and wishing to read more. I may mention, I now take it as a compliment when someone says I am a bitch - my badge of honour!
How about an anthology of essays 🙌🏻… Thoughts, ideas, politics, motherhood, travel (not on water though as there are fish with big teeth 😉). 🎀